There’s no way to sugarcoat it. You can wrap it in an array of clichès but in the end you’re saying no. We want to live life having people say yes to our wants, but we both now that what we want and what we need can turn out to be two very different things.
Sometimes I’m torn in two ;wanting to say no but wary of the effect of the word on that other person. (In case you were wondering, yes, I’m talking about relationships ). So what do i do? I evade. Over the last two weeks I have discovered the slippery slope that is the white lie. It’s scary how easy it is to lie! I say the words and in some deep dark corner in my conscience, I recognize the lie for what it is.
He’s a nice guy, he really is but… no! There’s no other way to put it. My sister tells me to give the guy a chance and some my friends think I’m pretty nuts but … no!
This is not saying that I’m looking for a ‘bad boy’ as they are known. The whole ‘nice guy vs bad boy’ is overrated if you ask me but there is something of merit in it.
There are two types of guys to me ;those who are grey and those who have colour.
Greys are those who fade into the crowd. They like the music everyone else likes, they wear what’s in (even if they are wearing the latest shiny supras with the ‘cool’ haircuts, they’re still grey), they don’t read. Greys are bland. They move with the crowd, and their opinions are based on what the radio personality in the saucy program said. Their not bad guys, they’re just nice. There are a number of shades of grey and this is only one of them.
Those who have colour are a tricky lot! They are more likey to be overrun by their ego and sometimes, can appear to be conformist until you look a little closer. They have a taste in music that defies time and public opinion. They read!!! They have opinions. They are not afraid to state their stand and to defend it reasonably. They have a sense of humor that goes beyond raunchy jokes. Some are nice. Others, not so much.
For most people, you can tell if they are grey or coloured if you see them with their friends or just have a simple conversation with them.
‘Your just …grey’ is my spin off from the clichè ‘nice guy’. Then he’ll ask me what I mean and then I’ll say, ‘You and I are very different people. I’m just not the colour for you’.
And that’s the truth.